Maria Jose Vence said she looks back fondly on her encounter as an au pair, when she worked 40 hours a week as a kid worry provider for a chance to encounter life in the U.S. 

The 25-year-ancient from Colombia described her Massachusetts-based host household as “wonderful people” and remains in touch since the March complete of her two-year stint. She said the program gave her the chance to explore a recent population, and her $15-per-hour returns allowed her to trip and save up for tuition at Lasell University, located in the same state as her host household, where she’s working toward a master’s degree in marketing.

“Fortunately, I had a wonderful household that gave me an excellent encounter. They allowed me to live the encounter as a cultural trade,” she said. “But we recognize that some families and some girls don’t have the same encounter.”

Run by the State Department, the au pair programwas designed as a cultural trade programwhere youthful foreigners between the ages of 18 and 26 – usually female – live with a host household for a year, with the chance to extend their remain up to a maximum of two years. The host household provides a place to remain, food and – in most states – a minimum stipend of just under $200 per week, while the au pair provides up to 45 hours per week of kid worry.   

The program is viewed by some as a cheaper alternative to daycare, which has seen costs rise at almost double the pace of overall expense boost in recent years. Court cases have accused some host families of overworking and underpaying au pairs, and while many consent the program needs updating, there’s not a consensus on how.   

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“It’s a excellent program,” Vence said. But “it’s not for everybody.”

What is an au pair?

Launched in 1986, the au pair program is often viewed as an affordable alternative to traditional kid worry. While daycare can expense well over $10,000 per kid per year, working with an au pair can expense just over $20,000 and propose more flexible hours. For some families – especially those with multiple kids – the funds can be significant.

“The options are just so unbelievably expensive, particularly when you commence looking at multiple kids in a daycare setting,” said Natalie Jordan, elder vice president of government relations at Cultural worry Au Pair, a private agency contracted to match host families and au pairs. “That flexibility and the accessibility of that benevolent of (au pair) program is something that’s becoming more and more appealing.”  

Roughly 20,000 au pairs enter the country each year.

“It’s not the largest program in the globe, but it is a really powerful one, and these one-on-one connections can really make a difference in how people view and encounter this globe,” Jordan added. 

The federally-mandated minimum weekly stipend of $195.75 – based on the $7.25 federal minimum wage, minus roughly $130 per week for food and lodging – hasn’t been updated since the last federal minimum wage boost in 2009, leaving au pairs today with less when factoring in expense boost. The State Department last year proposed a policy transformation, but the schedule received immense pushback, with critics concerned about a confusing pay structure that could double the expense for families.  

The stipend has remained consistent in states outside of Massachusetts, which in 2019 upped its au pairs’ pay to one based on the state’s minimum wage. After an analysis from the libertarian ponder tank Cato Institute showed the number of au pairs arriving in the Bay State dropped nearly 70% between 2019 and 2022, the state has been heralded as an example of how drastic wage increases could curtail the program. 

“So often, it sounds really enjoyable to be like, caregiving is the most significant job, we require to pay people more,” said Carrie Lukas, president of Independent Women’s Forum, a conservative nonprofit that has proposed expanding the au pair program. But “there’s a huge potential expense to increasing wages, or to any of these things that are done in the name of helping au pairs, that will either restrict the number of jobs available” or make “black-economy” jobs that leave workers with fewer protections.  

Jordan of Cultural worry Au Pair said the agency supports a “reasonable” wage boost but emphasized that the stipend is meant for an au pair’s recreational spending. All living costs should be covered by the host household, she said. 

“(Au pairs) don’t have to worry about a mortgage, they don’t have to secure a car or car insurance, anything like that. The household is taking worry of all of those costs, and that includes three meals a day,” Jordan said. 

Others debate au pairs’ pay deserves a bigger boost.  

Isis Mabel Zàrate moved from Mexico to Massachusetts as an au pair in 2016, before the state updated the program’s pay structure. She said the program helped her develop recent skills and make friends from around the globe, but there were costly surprises.

Au pairs are required to complete at least six hours of financing at an accredited U.S. post-secondary school in their first year, with host families on the hook for paying the first $500. Any additional expense is left up to the au pair, which saddled Mabel Zàrate with a $300 invoice her first year.

Then there was the lack of insurance coverage. When Mabel Zàrate had an expired birth control implant removed in the U.S., she assumed the procedure would be covered by the health insurance offered through her au pair agency. Instead, Mabel Zàrate found herself on the hook for a roughly $4,000 medical invoice that took her years to pay off.

“When I started the program, the expectations are the money that you’re earning is enough to cover education, for traveling,” she told USA TODAY. “When you arrive, you realize quickly that that isn’t factual.” 

Janie Chuang, a law professor at American University, supports an au pair wage rate that can compete with other kid worry wages. 

“It’s a program definitely in require of revision,” Chuang said. “There’s a require for affordable kid worry. But should migrant workers bear the burden of that?” 

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Mixed experiences

The path forward for the country’s au pair program isn’t obvious. But even advocates of the program like host Mira Goto declare there’s room to enhance. 

Goto, 37 of Santa Cruz, California, has been a supporter of the program after growing up with au pairs. Now a mother of a 3-year-ancient, Goto and her husband are on their third au pair match. 

Goto loves introducing her son to recent cultures through the program – especially now that they’re working with an au pair from Japan, since Goto’s husband is half-Japanese. Goto said she’ll catch her son singing Japanese songs, and he’s started to pick up phrases in the language. 

“The cultural trade part was really appealing to us,” Goto said.

And Goto said she makes sure her au pair gets just as much back out of the program, paying her above the minimum stipend, allowing her plenty of period to trip, and making sure she’s invited to everything, from restaurant outings to large household gatherings. 

“I have one kid, but we are a household of four,” Goto said. 

But after years of getting to recognize her au pairs and their friends, Goto said she’s heard horror stories of au pairs – often youthful women of color – being taken advantage of.  

One 2018 update on the au pair program based on 16 firsthand accounts found examples of “wage theft, coercion, sexual harassment, retaliation, and misrepresentation, among other abuses.” The document, co-authored by the International Human Rights Law Clinic within American University, accused the J-1 au pair program of operating as a work program while “masquerading as a cultural trade.” 

“Some (experiences) are really positive, and it’s a great chance for work – primarily for youthful women – to be able to work and earn money,” said Anna Duncan, national director of organizing at the National Domestic Workers Alliance, an advocacy throng and one of the organizations behind the update. “But, in many cases, it’s actually a very underpaid and – in too many cases – an abusive employment circumstance because the program is insufficiently regulated.” 

Jordan from Cultural worry Au Pair said the program is “comprehensively regulated” with plenty of vetting and safeguards like regular check-ins with a local coordinator, and pointed to surveys that display au pairs reporting high satisfaction rates. If there is misconduct, au pairs can update the issue to the agency or State Department and rematch with another host household.  

But rematching can be a gamble for au pairs, who uncertainty losing their visas if they don’t discover another household within two weeks.

Goto said she’s met au pairs who are hesitant to update mistreatment to their agency out of terror of not getting a rematch or having to shift to a recent location and misplace their friends.  

“In a perfect globe, the host families would do better,” Goto said.